It is one of the beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Volunteer work of some kind is one of my most often prescribed remedies for a wide range of symptoms. The reason: more and more research is showing an inverse relationship between happiness and thinking about yourself. What better way to think about others than to serve them in some way? Emotionally speaking we all exist on multiple continuums. One of these is the space between feeling helpless and feeling helpful. It’s not hard to imagine how brooding about your real (or perceived) shortcomings for an extended period of time could zap your happiness. Getting involved as a volunteer for an organization or cause you are passionate about provides an opportunity to feel (and actually be) helpful.
I recommend that you start small, but I would also suggest that you stay small in the time and effort you donate as a volunteer. I donate one session of counseling per week to current or former military veterans for an organization called Give An Hour. Not only do I enjoy the benefits of feeling good about giving back, but I can give one hour per week endlessly without suffering burn out. If you try to give more time than you can truly afford, it could backfire in the form of you eventually feeling resentful of the perceived demand on your time. It could also have a similar effect on your relationships as others feel they are no longer your priority. Either of these outcomes would negate all positive gains achieved through volunteerism. So be careful to consider how much time you can give while still maintaining other relationships, responsibilities, and personal time. If one hour per week is all you can give, then give it happily. Some charity, organization, or group would be glad to have your contribution.
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